Regardless of how large or small, distant or close your family may be or have been, December seems to shine a bright light on what we feel are the empty spaces in our lives.
Some of us may be reflecting on happy times we can no longer share,
either through death, divorce or fracture within the family circle.
Holidays trigger the tensions that existed previously. We try so hard to create the image of what we wish the holidays to be, our stress levels and expectations can
rarely match the reality of our situations.
This is a time when regret, sadness, and loneliness can derail all the good work we have invested in moving through our grief. We question whether we will ever again experience these holidays with joy and love.
Sometimes our hearts are opened by finding other ways to create new memories, perhaps with others who are alone, or for the family members who are suffering along with you. Openly permit the person missing to remain a presence in your lives, and the sharing of stories will help you make the transition.
Many internet sites offer advice and support to those grieving through the holidays and I offer the Canadian Virtual Hospice as a site full of wonderful information that I'm sure you will find helpful. The web address is: http://virtualhospice.ca.
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. Wishing you happiness."
- Helen Keller