Being a third generation Canadian has always been a great source of pride for me. We now have 5 such generations in our family and we marvel at our great, good fortune.
Attending the Indigenous Health Summer Gathering this week has tempered my pride somewhat by illuminating what my good fortune has cost the Indigenous inhabitants of this land throughout the past 150 years.
Since I try to use every learning experience as an opportunity for personal growth I have been thinking of how this could apply to a myriad of complex and personal situations. Can one feel shame and pride at the same time?
To reduce this question to its simplest denominator reflect on a time in which you didn't put your best self forward, whether in words, actions or feelings. Did you learn more about yourself from this experience? Were you able to respond differently ( more positively, more effectively) in a future situation?
I think a first step to transform feelings of shame into those filled with pride comes from how we process our experiences.As someone once said "We do better when we know better". By remaining open to life's lessons we strengthen our human connections and build on how we can each contribute to our world rather than diminish it.